Ok, I met my girlfriend over 7 months ago online. I am 34, and she is 30. After the first month of dating, we talked about the future of our relationship since we live 1 1/2 hours away from each other. She originally is from the same town that I am in now, and she promised to move back here to be with me and also to be close to her family again. After things got very serious between us, 6 months later, she broke her promise to me and said that she did not want to move, and asked me to move to be with her. The main reason for Her not wanting to move is because of her job, she likes what she does for a living, and makes good money, she could get the same type of job here, she would take a cut in pay, but it wouldn’t be much, only about $5,000 per year. Even though she would be making less money for a while, the cost of living is much cheaper here, and I would let her live in my house for free, which would save her a ton of money. Also, the job that is available here would include full beneftis, which she does not have at her current job. I thought about moving to be with her, but I have a lot of things keeping me where I am at, I own my own home, I just bought some rental property here, my family and friends are here, and I own a small business here, and really, there are not alot of job oppertunities for me where she lives since it is a very small town. The only thing she really has where she is at is her job, and I think it makes much more sense for her to move back to her hometown to be with me, she doesn’t think so. We have a great relationship, and I’m not sure what to do. If I move, I’m pretty much leaving everything behind, if I decide to stay, I will most likely lose her. What do you think about my situation? I don’t think she is being fair, it really bugs me that she went back on her word. what do you think? She is now thinking about buying a house where she lives, I had asked her is she could move to another small town that is only 15 minutes away from her job, and that would be 15 minutes closer to the town I live in. She will not even do that. she is thinking about buying a house in another small town that is 15 minutes way from her job, but in the other direction, which means we would even be farther apart. I just don’t understand why she will not compromise.
Not Sure What To Do About This Relationship, Can Someone Help?
August 2nd, 2011 
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call her bluff!! say you’re not moving end of story… UNLESS you don’t want to lose her which if is the case why are we having this conversation!?! in relationships i think women tend to win the majority of arguements because women know(think) there’s always another man out there willing to bow to her requests however if she really does love you she’ll stop digging her heels in!
This might be a little hard to handle, but she’s probably just not as into you as you think. First going back on her word and then not willing to compromise on an in between living arrangement… and then moving farther away.
I wouldn’t leave where I was at for a girl who would not compromise in the least with me.
This is a sticky situation, I know. When I met my husband, we lived in different states. The commute was only 45 minutes. I didn’t really have much freedom in my home town. Everyone depended on me there, so there came a point when I had to make a decision. Do I stay with my family and be miserable, or do I move in with my then fiance? My husband had a lot of stability in his state, and it made sense for me to move. However, my family was pushing for me to stay.
We looked at homes in my town, but I felt drawn to his area. In the end, I moved in with him. I later found a job, something I could not put my hands on in my hometown. My advice to you would be to back off and let her come to you. Best of luck.